I have fallen into a negative mom pattern; I'm looking at my phone too much, yelling too often, not taking care of myself enough. Bleh.
Last week I posted this on my Instagram:
It's more like that week was just the week that broke the camel's back. The weeks before it had been leading up to it, with me falling into bad habits and pretty much just reckless abandon ("I'll just drink caffeine all day and no water and that'll be fine!"). It is definitely not fine and I cannot hang when I'm not taking care of myself.
I think we all get into ruts and it's so nice to just take the time to step back and look at what you're doing that you don't want to continue, and decide on what you want to start doing instead. Sooo...here's where I'm at.
What I want:
Spend less time on my phone
Spend more time with my kids
Spend more time doing things that recharge me
Things I'm doing that I don't like:
Checking ALL forms of social media pretty much all day long
Looking at my phone more than my kids
Yelling at my kids
Not sleeping well
Not drinking enough water/drinking too much caffeine
Being too cynical
Not being intentional
Things that recharge me:
Lots of water
Reading inspiring books and quotes
My mommy detox prescription:
Because I'm pretty psychotic, I wanted to make an actionable plan that I could print out and get excited about. I saw these challenges on Pinterest and used most of their ideas for my own print out. Mostly the ones that pertained to me and my kids' ages. I also added in a few of my worksheets because they're perfect for this.
I have 3 different sections for each day; the first one is related to connecting with my kids, the second one is for detaching myself from bad habits basically, and just decluttering my mind/focus/life, and the third part is what I usually do every night anyway when I'm "being good". And when I put meditate, I don't mean how most people think of it, but more like a sequence of thoughts I go through. I'll explain further down with some links!
Feel free to steal my printout below for ideas or to even use as your own, whatever! There is also a blank one in the Printables Library as well.
Books I'm reading right now:
- Hands Free Mama - I've been meaning to read this forever. I love the premise of her book about letting go of distractions, putting down our phones and detaching ourselves from social media a bit so that we can actually live and enjoy life going on around us. For me I go through these phases where I just get bored or overwhelmed so I start looking at my phone more and then it becomes almost like an addiction where I constantly want to check my phone or have it my hand so I can check it at any free moment.
- LOA for the Real World - This is a law of attraction book written by Jeannette Maw and can I just confess how obsessed I've become with her recently? I didn't think much of this book when I first saw it a few years ago but since stumbling onto her blog and following her on FB, I've really come to admire her approach and attitude, she is awesome!!
- I also love to just re-read my favorite inspirational books, which I have highlighted so I just skip through all the highlights again. Specifically the ones by Mike Dooley and Pam Grout. So inspiring.
The third part of my plan every day is exercise, worksheets, and meditation. For the exercise part, I want to do the 30-Day Yoga Challenge below. I heart me some yoga, plus yoga is so good for all aspects of your health.
Before bed is when I usually fill out a worksheet or two from my book; I like the nightly re-centering one because it helps, um...recenter me....and just really helps me end the day in the right mind-frame.
And for meditation, there are two links I want to share with you guys. First, this app I've had for the last couple of years is AH-mazing. It's called Relax Melodies (not a referral link) and it's seriously the best app I've ever had for self-improvement. I first got it just for the sounds to help my boys fall asleep, but they've added so much to it now.
There's 6 isochronic tones, 6 binaural beats, and 36 guided meditations!!! For example "Stop Self-Criticism", "Manifest a Dream", "Increase Self-Belief", "Negativity Banisher" and "Balance Energy". Those are some of my favorites.
I sound like a sales rep but I'm not, I'm just in love with the app. It's great for listening to before going to bed, the guided meditations have helped me so much.
The mac daddy of meditations though would be the one below. It's literally the perfect phase of thoughts to go through on a daily basis: feeling compassion for others, feeling gratitude for what you have, forgiving anything or anyone that you need to, visualizing what you want, picturing the perfect day ahead of you, and then imagining the Universe/God blessing you and supporting you.
A guided meditation is here.
And I highly suggest watching this video on YouTube. He explains the process and why it's so powerful. 15 minutes a day and it truly makes a huge impact in your life - A 15 Minute Mind-Hack to Massively Enhance Your Brain Power and Emotional State
I actually like ruts because they springboard me into inspiration for living happier. Your rut is a gift! Learn from it what you desire most and then change things for the better.