Just a little old-fashioned weekend recap here. How was your holiday weekend? I hope it included good food, family or friends (or both!), beautiful fireworks, and if you were lucky, a little Pony by Genuwine. Ha!
1. Magic Mike
This movie did something special to my soul. I didn't go and see it expecting to see an Oscar worthy storyline, but I have to say the movie was actually pretty cute. Yes, they actually managed to make the Magic Mike movie cute yet sexy...ahh, just like the perfect man, right?! But yeah, besides laughing with my friend until my face hurt, that movie was therapeutic.
I honestly feel like since I had my two boys, certain things just haven't really been on my mind. I mean, I've been breastfeeding for the last 4 1/2 years straight, throw me a freakin' bone here. I'm just touched out and want to be left alone after the kids have fallen asleep. Having two kids in less than two years also gave me some body confidence issues. My usual reaction when I see the "look" on my husband's face is "Oh god..." before I try to look busy or asleep. It's not my husband at all and I feel bad for him because there's all of these things going on in my head that he just can't understand. So yeah, I think because this movie was so playful and lighthearted, it just made me feel the same way. It also kind of reminded me that I'm a woman still, not just a mom.
2. The time has come
I'm weaning this little guy. He's 2.5 and my cut off is before 3 for whatever reason, that's just where I draw the line in the sand. I think it's also where my body naturally wants to cut them off. When I was nursing Piggie at this age, I had a ton of milk because Dacky was 6 months old, so it wasn't like I was drying up or anything. But strangely enough, I developed intense aversions to nursing him again like I had during my pregnancy with Dacky. And only when I nursed him! My body was fine nursing the baby. This time around, my milk is drying up. I can hear him swallowing only during his morning nursing. During his nap time nursing, I hear nothing. And it's getting painful.
He fell asleep for his nap today with no "mimi" after some protesting, but he's been going to bed without nursing for about a month now. Another reason why my milk supply might've plummeted. I think it's just a natural course. At least this way there will hopefully be no engorgement issues since I hardly have any milk left anyway.
I can't promise you won't see sappy, depressing, exaggerated posts in the near future that my last baby weaned and that I will never breastfeed again. You've been forewarned!
3. Better Box
I'm reviewing a new subscription box that I'm really excited about because it's very Law of Attraction-y and all about feeling good, being happy, spiritual growth, etc. This one is neat because you get an email every day for each one of the items in your box which has a little activity for you to do. This month's focus was on gratitude (which as I just wrote about CHANGES YOUR LIFE!), so this has been really cool!
4. For 4 Year Olds!
This is Piggie, who upon wakening must immediately go check out his new Jurassic Lego collection and scrupulously make sure everything still looks perfect and how he left it the day before. God help you if you touch or even look in the direction of his Legos without first asking. And the answer is always no, anyway. Also, EPIC tantrums anytime he can't get a Lego piece on perfectly. Tell me this is just his age and not the budding of some lifelong neurosis...
5. Possible book cover
This is REALLY in the works still, meaning it could be completely different by tomorrow, but I wanted to share the general theme and feel of the book I'm writing! I'm getting really excited to launch this book, I'm still going through it and adding in so much of what I want to say for each subject. Here is my table of contents currently.
Writing this book is like addressing all of my own fears and weaknesses. And truly, I'm writing it for myself. As my own guide to refer to when I'm stuck or needing a reminder of how powerful I really am or simply need inspiration! It also helps me write in a much more open and honest manner rather than feeling like I'm on a stage in front of hundreds of people and feeling like I'm going to fail them all. I clam up!
So I'm VERY excited, maybe even moreso for the worksheet bundle that will be coming with it (which is bigger than what I currently have written on my table of contents). Cause I am a worksheet whore! There will be worksheets to help with getting out of ruts, facing fears, sorting out feelings, clarifying goals, identifying self-limiting beliefs, daily aligning, nightly recentering, etc etc!
So that's what's going on in my world over here! As I said, I hope you guys had a great holiday weekend! Let me know what you did, if you saw Magic Mike, if you have any thoughts on crazy preschoolers, or what you think of my book cover- I'd like to hear any or all of them! 🙂
Kelly
I love it! I throughly enjoy reading your blog and I would be happy to preorder your book as soon as it is finished! You truly have a gift for writing your heart out and speaking the truth when nobody else will, thank you.
Jessica Dimas
Kelly, I literally screen shot your comment and added to my quote collection for when I need encouragement, thank you SO MUCH for telling me that! It meant a lot <3
Andrea
So excited about your book. Sign me up!!! 🙂 Ahhh weaning is so emotionally hard, but it's good to feel like you are making the choice to be done, and not being forced for whatever reason (work, travel, etc).
Jessica Dimas
Thanks Andrea! Yeah, I feel okay in the fact that at least it's coming to an end pretty naturally and he's taking it much better than he would've even 6 months ago.
Tiffany
Okay, before I even get to the book.....YES, my weekend was filled with Genuine's Pony....but not because I went to see MMXXL. Because the hubs just likes to play the song and prance around like he's Mr. Tatum himself. It is quite entertaining.
The weaning....you can do it! I know it's hard, but sounds like you're ready. Oh and the preschool phase is for the birds right now. I seriously want to scratch my eyes out some days. Just stop being such a neurotic sh*t head kid!!
And the book! AH! Sooo excited for it! And so excited for you to be writing it! And the worksheets; totally up my alley!
Jessica Dimas
HAHAHAHAHAHA omg I love him!!! That is so awesome, I would be dying laughing.
SO ready to wean, and YES, the preschool phase is definitely for the birds!! Too bad we can't go out for a drink together and vent over the craziness lol. Ugh.
Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom
Oh wow! Such an awesome update Jessica!
I hear you on breastfeeding. My oldest self-weaned at about 2 1/2 but my youngest self-weaned at 14 months (and I'm so glad she did). I wasn't producing as much milk the second time around and nursing got so painful! I sometimes miss it and I have the occasional "ghost" letdown but I'm also glad it's over because it is giving a lot of yourself for a long time.
As for the Lego - TOTALLY normal. Legos are challenging to manipulate and he's doing great with them. The frustration will pass as his skills increase. Part of his possessiveness probably has to do with the amount of time and concentration it takes to make a piece! I'm a Lego nut - actually our whole family is and we're all a little like that at times. Don't worry unless he starts peeing on them to keep people away. lol
The book! Eeeeeeek! I'm so excited for you. The cover looks fabulous. I keep on thinking maybe "today" is the day I'll share a teaser of my book but I want to feel closer to completion before that (be done all stages of editing).
Fabulous update friend!
xoxo
Jessica Dimas
I love how you pointed out the positive of weaning...because yes, breastfeeding is giving so much of yourself. It drains me in all ways. It will kind of be amazing to have kids and not have to breastfeed them.
SO glad you reassured me on the Lego thing and that it's completely normal!!! Phew!! I'm sure if he knew that peeing might keep people away he'd do it lolol.
Thank you for the feedback on the cover! And yes I totally understand the teaser thing! I can't wait for your book.
Ida
I haven't seen Magic Mike yet and I want to because I haven't heard any bad reviews on it. Your son might stay that neurotic. My son is 8 and he is like that with his toys. Sorry friend! I am loving your book so far, can't wait for it to come out!
Jessica Dimas
It was actually good in my opinion! Both my friend and I were like...yeah, that wasn't bad lol. That scares me about your 8 year old, I guess I should just get used to it!!
Amy
As if you're writing a freakin book. That's so bad ass. Is it going to be an e-book or an actual book? Either way I am totally on the same page and believe in the law of attraction, gratitude, positive thinking etc, so I will be scoping this up when the time comes!
Jessica Dimas
Haha thank you Amy! It's going to be an ebook and there will be an actual book version as well. I love that you're on the same page, this stuff is so exciting to me and I could talk about it forever (which is why I wrote a book about it lol).
Meg O.
I just give you mad props for breastfeeding so long. Seriously. My first was 13.5 months and I was soooooooooooOOOOOOoo done. I wanted my body back because I was the freak who hung onto weight while breastfeeding. Same dang thing this time. I am hanging onto 10-12 pounds. It's annoying. I just want to wear my pre-preg clothes, more than anything else. I know that may be selfish but oh well.
Also, I am so excited for your book! I will definitely order it, as well!!
Jessica Dimas
Thank you! Yeah I think breastfeeding for anything past like....a WEEK feels like an eternity LOL. Ugh. I totally understand, I would feel the same if I hung onto the weight. I have a few friends who also have that issue. It's not selfish at all to want to be back in pre-preg clothes!
Jessie
Weaning is hard. 🙁 Good luck to both of you!
Also- where and how to you get the Better Box?! It looks amazing!
AND- can I just say how proud I am of you?! Your book is going to be amazing and a huge success, I can feel it! What you are writing about is intriguing to me! If you need a reviewer or help spreading the word about it let me know! 🙂
Jessica Dimas
I am going to share a post on the Better Box this week! They're new, just started this month 🙂
Thank you SO MUCH for the kind and encouraging words!! Also you gave me goosebumps saying that you can feel it about the success, thank you sooooo much, bear hug!! I will definitely contact you for a review. My book has been sent off to an editor and when I get it back next week sometime, I'm going to contact the people who have offered to review it for me 🙂
Jennie @ The Diary of a Real Housewife
Good luck with the weaning! You are so awesome to be able to go so long! Also yahh for the book! I love the cover!
Jessica Dimas
Thank you Jennie!! xo