Our society looooves to scares us when it comes to childbirth. If you want to hear the worst possible birth stories from random strangers, just go out in public pregnant. And if you want to hear morbid birth stories, throw in there that you’re having a med-free birth or home birth. That’ll really get ’em riled up and overflowing with horror stories for ya.
“Med-free? Har har har…yeah you’ll be singing a different tune once those contractions start.”
“A home birth? My aunt Sally’s friend’s second cousin’s daughter tried to have a home birth and she lost the baby. I just don’t understand why people take that kind of risk…”
I heard these daily when I was pregnant with my first. I can’t really recall even one encouraging story from anyone besides my midwife and from the books I read. I quickly realized I needed to be my #1 believer. So here is what I did to mentally prepare myself for both of my births: